Therapy for fathers who want to show up fully, for their families and for themselves.
Online therapy based in Olympia, serving all of Washington.
You’re a caretaker, partner, friend, provider, and protector. But with all those hats, does it ever feel like you get lost?
You want to do fatherhood differently. You want to be an active, emotionally present parent. But there aren’t many models for how to be both a loving, engaged dad and a supportive, equal partner. Add in the pressure to succeed in your career and still make time for friends or hobbies, and it starts to feel impossible. Something always has to give and too often, what gets sacrificed is you.
Taking care of your family is honorable and essential. But if you’re not also taking care of yourself, burnout creeps in. You might be with your family, but not really there, not in the intentional, engaged way you want to be.
Parenthood is a constant negotiation of needs. It can feel selfish to fill your own cup when your partner and kids need theirs filled too. But you can’t pour from empty.
When you’re running on fumes, it’s harder to connect, to be emotionally available, patient, and attuned. The truth is, the best gift you can give your family is a version of you who feels grounded, energized, and whole.
You’re wondering how it’s even possible, how to balance all the roles you fill, care for yourself, and still show up as the dad and partner you want to be.
What if you could be fully present with your kids? What if you felt deeply connected to your partner, calm and confident in how you handle conflict, stress, and everyday chaos? What if you ended each day knowing you showed up as your best self, that your kids felt seen and supported, and your partner felt loved and appreciated?
In therapy, we focus on both parts of that equation:
Caring for yourself so you have the energy and emotional space to show up fully.
Doing the deeper work, exploring how you can parent and partner from your most grounded, emotionally mature self.
Parenting asks you to nurture not only your children, but the younger version of you who still lives inside. I help you explore what kind of father and partner you want to be, and what gets in the way of becoming that version of yourself, especially if you’re trying to parent differently than your own dad did.
Your emotional maturity is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids. It’s hard to build, especially if it wasn’t modeled for you, but it’s absolutely possible. You deserve that growth, not just for your family’s sake, but for your own.
Therapy can help you:
Balance your responsibilities in a sustainable, realistic way
Clarify what your ideal dad self looks like and how to become him
Access emotional support you might not have outside your home
Heal your own childhood wounds
Understand attachment so you can best support your kids
Do the emotional work that helps you truly show up as your best self
Build deeper, more meaningful bonds with your kids and your partner
